tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-384272272024-03-05T06:05:22.437-08:00Srcapsalmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-8884007525217995892010-04-21T08:56:00.000-07:002010-04-21T09:00:54.163-07:00How to survive a cheating husband<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNrmwSIBb8cKv6Hh0BW-vjeDKFl1Jb4tUSfA40QkQUtuN2HtY2OX1vX4HY8aUhhu6oitYXgv6x09Tc-CeEqgQaT-bUk222KMscXghIX_pRHXjAGgy1JILcyoj3wc-v8Fi8QOddnA/s1600/sandrabullock_1603275c.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 485px; height: 303px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjNrmwSIBb8cKv6Hh0BW-vjeDKFl1Jb4tUSfA40QkQUtuN2HtY2OX1vX4HY8aUhhu6oitYXgv6x09Tc-CeEqgQaT-bUk222KMscXghIX_pRHXjAGgy1JILcyoj3wc-v8Fi8QOddnA/s400/sandrabullock_1603275c.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5462620372184016194" border="0" /></a><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">After the recent glut of adulterous celebrity husbands, Celia Walden presents a guide as to how a deceived woman should best conduct herself<br /></div><br />There is no word for a female cuckold in the Oxford English Dictionary. A man cheated on by his wife becomes emasculated, an object of derision – the victim of a phenomenon which is hilarious by virtue of its (supposed) rarity. But when a man cheats on a woman, is it so commonplace that it doesn’t deserve its own term?<br /><br />The glut of recent celebrity scandals would have us think so. In the past fortnight alone, Oscar-winner Sandra Bullock’s husband, Jesse James, is alleged to have cheated on her with a heavily tattooed glamour model, and Kate Winslet and Sam Mendes have brought their marriage to a close – with sources citing Mendes’s “close friendship” with Rebecca Hall, a young actress, as the cause.<br /><div class="summary">T</div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />The philanderer’s pile-up started last December, when Tiger Woods was revealed to have “transgressed” at least a dozen times against his Swedish wife, Elin Nordegren. Then John Terry, the England football captain, prompted by a tabloid exposé, confessed to a fling with a team-mate’s girlfriend. Soon afterwards, singer Cheryl Cole announced that she was leaving her husband Ashley after fresh allegations of his infidelity.<br /><br />Male adultery, of course, is nothing new, particularly in the celebrity world, but while our female forebears tended to follow an unwritten code (dignity and discretion being paramount) when the unthinkable happened, feminism has muddied the waters. Nowadays, columnists lambast “doormat wives” who take their husbands back (Toni Terry) and victims who profit (Cheryl Cole) alike. So how does a woman survive the affair with style?<br /><br />“Little has been written about those first few hours or days after you discover your husband’s affair,” says Ruth Houston, author of Is He Cheating on You? “First it’s important to focus on what you shouldn’t do. Most women let fear, anger, hurt or a desire for revenge compel them to do things they later regret.” A reaction etiquette bible, Debrett’s, frowns upon. “Civil and dignified behaviour is usually a sensible approach,” explains adviser, Jo Bryant. “It may sound very British, but family and friends will admire your stoical behaviour. One should avoid public displays of emotion that may embarrass others.”<br /><br />But isn’t it possible to be vengeful with panache? Who can forget Sally Graham-Moon’s gloriously choreographed retaliation: she cut up her husband’s Savile Row suits, poured white paint over his blue BMW and deposited bottles of his vintage claret on neighbours’ doorsteps? While not exactly civil, the element of calculation did prevent it from seeming either hysterical or undignified.<br /><br />The same cannot be said of more vicious acts of revenge: Lorena Bobbit, most will agree, went a little too far, while the bags of fertiliser sent by Rachel Royce to the Spectator offices on hearing of her husband Rod Liddle’s affair with the receptionist were neither witty or stylish. Perhaps the act was simply too self-aware, accompanied, as it was, by 2,600-words in the Daily Mail headlined: “My cheating husband Rod, 10 bags of manure and me the bunny boiler. As for the Slapper… she’s welcome to him.”<br /><br />According to Debrett’s, Royce committed two cardinal sins here: discussing the affair in public, and referring to the other woman – however obliquely (a trend started by Diana, Princess of Wales, when she told Martin Bashir that “there were three of us in this marriage”).<br /><br />“Be discreet about who you talk to,” counsels Bryant. “Don’t bore casual acquaintances with the sins of your partner. Reserve your bitterest recriminations for close, trustworthy friends; long tales about your situation will soon have you struck off the dinner-party guest list.” Which would condemn Mia Farrow (who accused her husband Woody Allen of molesting their seven-year-old adoptive daughter, Dylan, after he left her for another adoptive daughter, Soon-Yi) and cheating TV presenter Chris Tarrant’s wife Ingrid, who broadcasted his sexual shortcomings on live television – and claiming he often went to bed smelling of fish – to a lifetime of TV meals for one.<br /><br />Humour, however, can render that rule obsolete. Ivana Trump built a whole repertoire, a brand even, on witticisms concerning her husband Donald’s adultery, starting with the marvellous: “Don’t get mad. Get everything.” Meanwhile Alan Clark’s wife, Caroline Jane, used an array of disparaging one-liners to diffuse her own heartbreak. When details of Clarke’s seduction of a South African judge’s wife and two daughters hit the press, she famously declared: “If you bed people of below-stairs class, they will go to the papers.” Which tells you a lot about her would-be aristocratic husband. “If you are going to speak out,” Debrett’s agrees, “a little humour and self-deprecation may help.”<br /><br />There are four basic choices available to the cheated wife after the initial hurdles have been gracefully overcome. The most obvious is to take the reinvention route. “This is the time to remind your cheating, lying, waste-of-space husband exactly what a great woman he is in danger of losing,” says author and “infidelity analyst” Sarah Symonds. “Although your self-esteem will be at it’s lowest, never show him that. Even if you don’t feel like it, you must walk around with your head held high under a perfect coiffure, swap the flat shoes for high heels and – if your eyes are puffy from crying – get those 'affair sunglasses’ on, like Cheryl Cole.” First-timers should beware implications (“I understand why you bedded the receptionist: I was a stone and a half overweight, my hair was lank and I didn’t know what a bandage dress was”) of such an overhaul.<br /><br />The cheated wife could also be French about it and rise above the infidelity by engaging in a little intrigue of her own, like Nicolas Sarkozy and Carla Bruni, or Charles and Diana. “Don’t play victim,” urges author Kathy Lette. “Go and dance naked on a table with a toy boy.” Whether younger, richer or cleverer, it’s essential to trade up, says Symonds. “If your husband had the need to fall into the arms of another partner, you may need to cry on the younger, broader shoulders of another.”<br /><br />She could be pragmatic, like the Duchess of Devonshire, and enjoy the fact that her spouse is still desired by others (“Of course people can have affairs in their marriages; how can you expect someone to have a lot of spunk if they don’t have a bit of life of their own?”).<br /><br />The other option is to become one of the long line of cheated women in history to follow the “keep calm and carry on” precept. Typified by Jackie O (the First Lady turned a blind eye to JFK’s indiscretions), this unflappable brigade tends to come out best. Victoria Beckham has always refused to acknowledge her husband David’s alleged dalliance with Rebecca Loos, while Hillary Clinton got through her annus horribilis by adhering to the “duck method” (appearing serene while a frenzy of kicking goes on beneath the surface).<br /><br />House-proud Pauline Prescott’s reaction to news that John had bedded his aide was to go ahead with a plan to have “a lovely loo put in my hall”, despite her husband’s suggestion she postpone the building work. “The photographers caught the plumber coming in with the loo,” she says in her autobiography, Smile Though Your Heart is Breaking. “And the headline was 'Everything’s going down the pan at the Prescotts’!”<br /><br />It comes down to making your own decision about whether to stand by your man. “So many women are egged on by a coven of so-called friends who are unconsciously jealous,” says writer Mary Killen. “No one is asking the woman to put up with public humiliation but she should not let herself be a puppet of the public, the press or her girlfriends.<br /><br />“In the celebrity world, it is never wrong to stand by your man,” adds Symonds, “especially if there is the chance of a book deal. Many showbiz marriages are a corporation from the start; more a 'merger’ than a marriage. The “merger wife” tends to know about her husband’s indiscretions, so her main focus – upon exposure – will be to gloss over them publicly. My advice to those who do stand by their man: make sure you make his life hell, while siphoning off enough of his money to be able to move on to a new – and better – life without him one day.”<br /></div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-38527344810005120612010-01-24T04:49:00.000-08:002010-01-24T04:56:20.825-08:00Nuns fight nightclub over 'immoral' lapdancing<div class="summary"><br /><img src='http://img705.imageshack.us/img705/4083/nunsfightnightcluboveri.jpg' border='0'/><br />A group of nuns are fighting to stop a nightclub introducing strippers opposite their convent.<br /><br />The sisters have warned that the 'immoral' entertainment could lead youths into temptation.<br /><br />They said teenagers had already started to take an interest in advertisements for 'exotic dancing' and 'striptease to music' nights.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />The Society of St Margaret nuns in Uckfield, East Sussex, are leading a revolt alongside 50 residents.<br /><br />They fear the Broadway nightclub could circumvent tough new licensing laws designed to crack down on lapdancing venues.<br /><br />Under the rules to come in this year, nightclubs and bars that apply to run striptease events on just 11 nights a year will avoid new regulations.<br /><br />Sister Shirley Jepson said: 'Can we suppose the "dancing", entertainment and films are going to be morris men and Julie Andrews?'<br /><br />Richard Calderbank, manager director of Ambassador Leisure Services, said the club was 'well run'.</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-34055901864034450932010-01-10T07:29:00.000-08:002010-01-10T07:29:39.718-08:003 Lifestyle Habits Boost Your Sex Drive<div class="summary"><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">1. Get plenty of exercise<br /></div><br /><img style="width: 485px; height: 485px;" src="http://img689.imageshack.us/img689/5198/womanrunningsea400x4007.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br />If you want to be "hot-blooded," then improve your circulation. Physical fitness can increase blood flow, which in theory can make sex more pleasurable since sexual arousal for both men and women involves increased blood flow to the genital area. And that can increase desire itself—if it feels great, you tend to want to do it more.<br /><br />Exercise boosts endorphins, which lift your mood, and it can increase your energy. Not to mention that being toned makes some people feel sexier.<br /></div><div class="restofpost"><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">2. Eat a healthy diet<br /></div><br /><img style="width: 488px; height: 488px;" src="http://img402.imageshack.us/img402/3140/superbroccoli400x400790.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br />Arteries clogged with saturated fat don't bring as much blood to the genital area for arousal purposes. Hence the correlation between heart disease and erectile dysfunction.<br /><br />But excess weight also messes with your hormones. "Obesity can shift the balance between estrogen and testosterone," says Michael Krychman, MD, executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine in Newport Beach, Calif. And low testosterone can bring down your sex drive.<br /><br />Nutrition counts too. For example, an iron deficiency can lead to fatigue, which in turn can lead to low libido. (Eat your broccoli!)<br /><br /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">3. Manage your stress<br /></div><br /><img style="width: 485px; height: 485px;" src="http://img694.imageshack.us/img694/5351/couplelayingdownforest4.jpg" border="0" /><br /><br />"How about a simple vacation? How about communicating with your partner?" suggests Irwin Goldstein, MD, director of San Diego Sexual Medicine and editor in chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine. "People are overworked and stressed, and they translate their overworked, stressed lives to a lousy sex life."<br /></div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-53888919198275357572010-01-09T09:17:00.000-08:002010-01-09T09:21:09.349-08:002 Ways to Make Condoms Sexy<div class="summary"><br /><img style="width: 497px; height: 372px;" src="http://img52.imageshack.us/img52/4674/sexycouplecondombed2007.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">2 Ways to Make Condoms Sexy<br /></div><br />Some people just won't have sex without a condom—but find themselves encountering sex partners who need a little coaxing. Here are two suggestions for turning the routine into something sexy by getting everyone involved.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">1. Have your partner put it on</span><br />Ralph Diaz (not his real name), 37, of New York City, says, "It makes it more intimate if someone else puts the condom on for you," says Diaz. "Because it's someone else's touch."<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">2. Make it an oral sex bonus</span><br />Carmen Donovan (not her real name), 27, of Los Angeles, likes putting the condom on her sex partners during oral sex. "Guys are less likely to complain if they are super turned on," she says. "And that way I can be sure that the condom is on correctly and less likely to break."<br /></div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-6109468436028901192010-01-08T07:19:00.000-08:002010-01-08T07:21:25.497-08:00Men sex think 5,000 times in a year<div class="summary">Men think about sex almost 5,000 times a year – but only get down to doing it 104 times, a new study has found.<br /><img style="width: 468px; height: 293px;" src="http://img191.imageshack.us/img191/1209/couple1555546c3817700.jpg" border="0" /><br />Researchers found the average male turns their thoughts to sexual intercourse 13 times a day – a total of 4,745 times every year.<br /><br />Almost a third even admitted it is often the first thing they think about when they wake up in the mornings.<br /><br />In comparison, women think about sex just five times day – or 1,825 times a year.<br /><br />But when it comes to actually having sex, men have to make do with it an average of just twice a week, or 104 times a year.<br /><br />A spokesman for market research company www.Onepoll.com said: ''Men are well-known for thinking about sex a lot, but to find out exactly how often is staggering.<br /></div><div class="restofpost"><br />''It seems blokes have sex on the brain whether they are going through a dry spell or jumping between the sheets on a regular basis.<br /><br />''They can't even get away from the sexy thoughts when they first wake up in the morning.<br /><br />''So when you catch your man staring into space, you know what he's likely to be thinking about.''<br /><br />The study of 3,000 people also showed that despite the difference in the amount of times men think about sex and actually do it, almost three quarters claim they are happy about the amount of sex they were getting.<br /><br />But just 58 per cent of women said the same.<br /><br />And 43 per cent of couples also admitted arguing over who instigates the lovemaking, with men most likely to make the first move.<br /><br />Researchers also found one in three guys think a candlelit dinner is the best way of getting a woman in the mood, followed by a relaxing massage.<br /><br />But women are more likely to play romantic music or cook their partner's favourite meal to try and get them into bed.<br /></div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-38050188872147974452009-12-31T06:51:00.000-08:002009-12-31T06:56:18.421-08:00Nvidia Delays Fermi to March 2010<div class="summary"><img src='http://img707.imageshack.us/img707/1863/xfxgeforce9600gtgraphic.jpg' border='0' alt='Nvidia Delays Fermi to March 2010'/><br /><br />Nvidia has selected the launch date for its next-generation DirectX 11-supporting GPU (Fermi) to be March, 2010, while AMD will launch more GPUs in January-February, according to sources from graphics card makers. Nvidia also plans to have a live demo of the product at CES in January.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />According to market rumors, Nvidia had originally scheduled the launch of Fermi for November 2009 but then delayed the planned launch until CES in January 2010 due to defects. However,the sources stated that Nvidia recently notified graphics card makers that the official launch will be in March 2010, which is consistent with previous Nvidia comments that the product will begin shipping in the first quarter of 2010.<br /><br />Commenting on the news, Nvidia stated that its planned schedule of product shipping in the first quarter 2010 remains unchanged and any rumors of defects are completely false.<br /><br />Nvidia plans to launch a 40nm GDDR5 memory-based Fermi-GF100 GPU in March, and will launch a GF104 version in the second quarter to target the high-end market with its GeForce GTX295/285/275/260, the sources pointed out.<br /><br />For performance level markets, Nvidia will allow its GeForce GTS250, GT240/220 and 9800GT/9500GT defend against AMD's Radeon HD 5770/5750, 4870/4850 and 4670/4650.<br /><br />For the mainstream market, Nvidia will mainly push its GeForce 210.<br /><br />Meanwhile, AMD will launch 40nm Radeon HD 5670/5570 (Redwood) and HD 5450 (Cedar) GPUs at the end of January or in February 2010, the sources noted.<br /><br />In related news, although Taiwan Semiconductor Manufacturing Company's (TSMC's) 40nm process yields have already improved, capacity is still not sufficient to supply the two GPU giants fully which may have an impact the launch schedules, the sources added.<br /><br />AMD did not respond by the time of publication.</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-70838938948817018582009-12-26T06:55:00.000-08:002009-12-26T07:03:21.012-08:00China's last tiger is eaten<div class="summary"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX_PmJujKdA8jcYdrXsAfn9D25LvJyPl5inPCQRIMSKehbgjmAsZwkCQCCI9qkwudtrOj9bdIi64TuknqG0c0cbM22MPijgEtQd-DtPTXddhC-AV_VHn_6wPnuUx834rqLofXB/s400/China's+last+tiger+is+eaten.jpg" border="0" alt="China's last tiger is eaten"id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5419558971035494162" /><br />The man was sentenced to 12 years in jail, local media reported. Kang Wannian, a villager from Mengla, Yunnan Province, met the tiger in February while gathering freshwater clams in a nature reserve near China's border with Laos. He claimed to have killed it in self-defence.<br /><br />The only known wild Indochinese tiger in China, photographed in 2007 at the same reserve, has not been seen since Kang's meal, the Yunnan-based newspaper Life News reported earlier this month.<br /></div> <div class="restofpost"><br />The paper quoted the provincial Forestry Bureau as saying there was no evidence the tiger was the last one in China.<br /><br />A local court sentenced Kang to 10 years for killing a rare animal plus two years for illegal possession of firearms, the local web portal Yunnan.cn reported. Prosecutors said Kang did not need a gun to gather clams.<br /><br />Four villagers who helped Kang dismember the tiger and ate its meat were also sentenced from three to four years for "covering up and concealing criminal gains", the report said.<br /><br />The Indochinese tiger is on the brink of extinction, with fewer than 1,000 left in the forests of Laos, Vietnam, Cambodia, Thailand and Myanmar.<br /></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-7976842449860243162009-12-23T05:15:00.000-08:002009-12-23T05:18:39.714-08:00Facebook fuelling divorce<div class="summary"><br />Facebook is being cited in almost one in five of online divorce petitions, lawyers have claimed.<br /><img style="width: 470px; height: 294px;" src="http://img121.imageshack.us/img121/74/facebook1510124c4075827.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">Suspicious spouses have also used the websites to find evidence of flirting and even affairs which have led to divorce<br /></div><br />The social networking site, which connects old friends and allows users to make new ones online, is being blamed for an increasing number of marital breakdowns.<br /><br />Divorce lawyers claim the explosion in the popularity of websites such as Facebook and Bebo is tempting to people to cheat on their partners.<br /><br />Suspicious spouses have also used the websites to find evidence of flirting and even affairs which have led to divorce.<br /><br />One law firm, which specialises in divorce, claimed almost one in five petitions they processed cited Facebook.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />Mark Keenan, Managing Director of Divorce-Online said: "I had heard from my staff that there were a lot of people saying they had found out things about their partners on Facebook and I decided to see how prevalent it was I was really surprised to see 20 per cent of all the petitions containing references to Facebook.<br /><br />"The most common reason seemed to be people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to."<br /><br />Flirty emails and messages found on Facebook pages are increasingly being cited as evidence of unreasonable behaviour.<br /><br />Computer firms have even cashed in by developing software allowing suspicious spouses to electronically spy on someone's online activities.<br /><br />One 35-year-old woman even discovered her husband was divorcing her via Facebook.<br /><br />Conference organiser Emma Brady was distraught to read that her marriage was over when he updated his status on the site to read: "Neil Brady has ended his marriage to Emma Brady."<br /><br />Last year a 28-year-old woman ended her marriage after discovering her husband had been having a virtual affair with someone in cyberspace he had never met.<br /><br />Amy Taylor 28, split from David Pollard after discovering he was sleeping with an escort in the game Second Life, a virtual world where people reinvent themselves.<br /><br />Around 14 million Britons are believed to regularly use social networking sites to communicate with old friends or make new ones.<br /><br />The popularity of the Friends Reunited website several years ago was also blamed for a surge in divorces as bored husbands and wives used it to contact old flames and first loves.<br /><br />The UK’s divorce rate has fallen in recent years, but two in five marriages are still failing according the latest statistics.<br /><br />Mr Keenan believes that the general divorce rate will rocket in 2010 with the recession taking the blame.</div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-77250915009261970142009-12-22T05:24:00.000-08:002009-12-22T05:29:58.174-08:00Young mum sex with boy<div class="summary"><img style="width: 435px; height: 605px;" src="http://img6.imageshack.us/img6/9548/snn2221ab280952803a8344.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">A MUM who had sex sessions with a 15-year-old schoolboy while her partner was at work has been jailed for two years.<br /></div><br />Alexandra Brown, 24, started the affair, claiming she was at a "low ebb" after being left alone with her four-year-old son.<br /><br />She kissed the teenager in the kitchen of her home in Darlington, Co Durham, and the next day invited him into her bedroom, saying: "I think you know why."<br /><br />Teesside Crown Court heard Brown became so infatuated with the lad she ended her five-year relationship with partner, Ian Henry, 34.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />Brown admitted having sex with the teenager, who cannot be named for legal reasons, between ten and 15 times during the summer.<br /><br />After the fling ended it is alleged he demanded money, threatening to go to the police unless she paid up. He has been charged with blackmail.<br /><br />Brown was also banned from working with children and put on the sex offenders' register.<br /></div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-13241717978964213112009-12-22T05:14:00.000-08:002009-12-22T05:20:34.015-08:00Parents pose as their 11-year-old daughter to snare Facebook paedophile grooming her for sex<div class="summary"><center><img style="width: 391px; height: 573px;" src="http://img46.imageshack.us/img46/9758/parentsposeastheir11yea.jpg" alt="Parents pose as their 11-year-old daughter to snare Facebook paedophile grooming her for sex" border="0" /></center><br /><br />The parents of an 11-year-old girl posed as their child on the internet to snare a paedophile who they discovered was grooming her for sex. <br />The pair took over the girl's Facebook account and, pretending to be her, lured perverted Thomas Gibbs into a trap.<br />Today the 52-year-old was behind bars, starting a 16-month jail term.<br />A judge heard how the couple became concerned about online conversations between their young daughter and another person.</div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />They stepped in and assumed her internet identity as they realised the correspondent's depraved intentions.<br />Gibbs suggested meeting the 'young girl' and turned up on two occasions for the arranged rendezvous.<br />On the first occasion the girl's mother and other relatives watched him, noting his appearance, but did not contact him.<br />After the second time the predator was arrested.<br />Gibbs was jailed at Oxford Crown Court after admitting two counts of meeting a child following sexual grooming.<br />Prosecutor Jennifer Edwards explained how the family took matters into their own hands.<br />She said the victim was using a laptop in the living room when her mother's suspicions were suddenly aroused.<br />'She saw over the little girl's shoulder and immediately appreciated she was communicating with Mr Gibbs,' she said.<br />She said Gibbs was commenting on the girl's profile picture and said he wanted to kiss her, writing: 'I really like you' and 'I want to meet you.' <br />Mrs Edwards said the mother then took over the laptop and continued to chat to Gibbs posing as her daughter.<br />The family alerted the police immediately but carried on communicating with him.<br />'The contact continued for the following week. Each time her daughter went onto the computer Mr Gibbs was there ready, willing to respond,' said Mrs Edwards.<br />When Gibbs from Witney, Oxfordshire, suggested meeting, the girl's mother continued the pretence and arranged to see him in Witney town centre at noon on April 18.<br />Family members saw him in the area but did not confront him.<br />The next time he was on Facebook they agreed to another meeting at 7pm in Carterton, Oxfordshire, on April 30, and Gibbs was arrested.<br />Mark Dixon, defending, said there was no discussion of sex itself in the communication.<br />However, he conceded: 'It has caused the family hell and he (Gibbs) accepts responsibility and guilt for that.'<br />Gibbs was jailed for 16 months and ordered to sign onto the sex offenders' register for at least five years.<br />Outside court, the girl's mother said: 'We knew once we'd got involved she was 100 per cent safe and she's a very bright girl but you obviously think about all the others that could have been targeted.<br />'When it first happened she didn't want to go out but now she knows it's all over and he won't be able to do this to any other families.'<br />She added: 'It does make me more wary of Facebook and parents should be aware of what their children are doing on the internet.'<br />Detective Constable Jon Capps said: 'I would like to pay tribute to the family who have prevented any further offences being committed, as well as the young girl who was brave enough to tell her parents.'</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-41789808916798172372009-12-18T23:10:00.000-08:002009-12-18T23:18:06.374-08:00Boy alive crushed between two escalators<div class="summary"><br />A four-year-old boy had his young age to thank after surviving a horrifying accident that saw him crushed between two escalators.<br /><br />Doctors said that had Stevie Webb been older, his neck would have been snapped when he was bent double in the foot-wide gap between two ramp-style travelators.<br /><br />The incident occurred when Stevie's mother turned her back and he sneaked between the two walkways, which were moving in opposite directions, in the Savacentre in Colliers Wood, south-west London.<br /><img style="width: 475px; height: 628px;" src="http://img207.imageshack.us/img207/8996/article123700107a5d8160.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">Lucky escape: Stevie Webb was caught between two travelators at a south-west London shopping centre<br /></div><br />In seconds his clothes were caught and Stevie was whipped round backwards so hard his head was level with his ankles.<br /><br />His horrified mother hit the machine's emergency stop button before dragging him free with the help of a friend.<br /><br />The force of the impact and twisting motion left Stevie with discoloured eyes and face because blood vessels burst under the skin.<br /><br />Doctors told Stevie's parents that had their son been any older, and his bones more set, the force of the accident would have snapped his neck.<br /><br />It is expected to take at least a month for Stevie's complexion to return to normal.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />An investigation has now been launched at the Savacentre.<br /><img src="http://img692.imageshack.us/img692/7185/article123700107a5d7da0.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">On the road to recovery: Stevie will regain full health, but doctors say if he had been older his injuries would have been fatal<br /></div><br />Stevie's father Darren Webb, 39, from Mitcham, Surrey, said his son's injuries were so severe he resembled the blue-purple alien characters from the film 'Avatar'.<br /><br />He said: 'It's left him looking like an extra out of that new Avatar film. He doesn't have any white left in his eyes and it could be months until the colour in his face goes back to normal.<br /><br />'The doctors said he'd been incredibly lucky because his neck and body were so contorted. It's only because he's so young and supple that his neck didn't break.'<br /><br />Mr Webb was in the centre's car park waiting to pick up his family when the accident happened. He immediately rushed unconscious Stevie to St George's Hospital, Tooting, less than a mile away.<br /><br />But Mr Webb said he was planning to take legal action against the centre after its manager refused to take responsibility for the accident, claiming the boy's mother was not watching him at the time.<br /><br />Mr Webb, who has spoken to centre manager Eric Sante and watched CCTV footage of the accident, said: 'I'll put my hands up and agree my child was playing while his mum's back was turned - but four-year-olds do that sort of thing.<br /><br />'There was no kind of protection or barrier to stop this from happening but the shopping centre manager still wants to make out that this is our fault.<br /><br />'It's unbelievable - my son nearly died.'<br /><br />Horrific accident: Travelators at the Savacentre (no members of the Webb family are pictured)<br /><img style="width: 481px; height: 293px;" src="http://img200.imageshack.us/img200/5080/article123700107a62f150.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">Mr Sante said: 'Mr Webb came in on Monday screaming and demanding to see CCTV footage which we let him do.<br /></div><br />'I sat him down and apologised but told him I was in no position to accept responsibility for what happened.'<br /><br />He added the CCTV footage showed Stevie playing next to the travelator while his mother was on the phone.<br /><br />The incident has already been referred to the shopping centre's legal team.<br /><br />MB Trust, which manages the area where the walkways operate, said it was officially checked twice a year and the most recent check was in November.<br /><br />Juliet Bray, marketing director of MB Real Estate, an arm of MB Trust, said: 'It's a horrible incident and I can't imagine how upsetting it must have been for the parents and the little boy.<br /><br />'I'm confident that we've done what is needed to make it safe. I'm very moved and I know that all of my colleagues are too and they will take every step necessary to make sure this doesn't happen again.'<br /><br />The travelator is situated near to the shopping centre's Sainsbury's store.<br /><br />A Sainsbury's spokesman said: 'We would like to express our sympathies to the Webb family for this incident. We have been in contact with MB Real Estate who confirmed that they are taking every possible step to prevent something like this happening again.<br /><br />'As soon as our colleagues at the store were made aware of the accident they began to give first aid and also called an ambulance.'<br /></div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-38551404962799641332009-12-17T05:44:00.000-08:002009-12-17T05:49:26.305-08:00Two boys, aged 10, charged for raping a girl in a park<div class="summary"><center><img src='http://img42.imageshack.us/img42/6145/twoboysaged10chargedfor.jpg' border='0' alt='Two boys, aged 10, charged for raping a girl in a park'/></center><br /><br />Two 10-year-old boys have been charged with the rape of an eight-year-old girl in west London.<br /><br />The alleged sex attack relates to an incident in a park off College Way, Hayes, west London, in October.<br /><br />Scotland Yard said the pair would appear before magistrates in Uxbridge today.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />The schoolgirl was said to have been playing with the boys when the alleged attack happened during half-term school holidays. <br /><br />She went with the boys to College Park in Hayes to play on the climbing frame and swings close to Hayes Community Campus, which is part of Uxbridge College.<br /><br />The children were not being supervised by any adults, detectives said at the time. <br /><br />The young girl, who cannot be named for legal reasons, said she was taken to bushes at the edge of the park where she was sexually assaulted in broad daylight.<br /><br />The two boys are alleged to have taken turns raping her.<br /><br />Afterwards, the young girl ran home to tell her parents. Horrified, they alerted police and two boys were arrested hours later.<br /><br />A Met police spokesman said the charges were made following advice from the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS).<br /><br />The alleged attack was investigated by officers from the Met's specialist Sapphire Unit.<br /><br />The recently re-organised unit is part of the Specialist Crime Directorate.<br /><br />It is run by detectives specially trained in child sex offences who have recently interviewed the young girl.</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-46409374008206964022009-12-16T11:49:00.000-08:002009-12-16T11:51:45.685-08:00Coffee and tea reduce risk of diabetes<div class="summary"><br /><img style="width: 470px; height: 294px;" src="http://img51.imageshack.us/img51/9630/espresso1492101c2949812.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">Drinking coffee and tea can reduce the chances of developing type 2 diabetes, research has suggested.<br /></div><br />People who drink more coffee and tea get protection against the disease, which is often caused by being overweight.<br /><br />Researchers in Australia found people who drink three to four cups of coffee a day had a 25 per cent lower risk of type 2 diabetes than those who drank none or only one or two cups a day.<br /><br />The effect is not due to caffeine as those who drank decaffeinated coffee showed similar results.<br /><br />Tea drinkers also showed some protective effects with those who drank more than three to four cups of tea a day were at a one fifth lower risk of developing the disease.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />The analysis of 18 previous studies involving a total of almost 450,000 people, is published in the journal Archives of Internal Medicine. The effects remained even when the researchers took into account other factors that can cause diabetes.<br /><br />It is thought compounds in coffee and tea including magnesium and antioxidants may be involved.<br /><br />Lead author Rachel Huxley, of The George Institute for International Health, University of Sydney, Australia, wrote: “If such beneficial effects were observed in interventional trials to be real, the implications for the millions of individuals who have diabetes mellitus, or who are at future risk of developing it, would be substantial.<br /><br />“For example, the identification of the active components of these beverages would open up new therapeutic pathways for the primary prevention of diabetes mellitus. It could also be envisaged that we will advise our patients most at risk for diabetes mellitus to increase their consumption of tea and coffee in addition to increasing their levels of physical activity and weight loss.”<br /><br />Dr Carrie Ruxton, nutritionist and scientific advisor to the Tea Advisory Panel, said: "If tea proves to be beneficial in helping to reduce the risk of diabetes, this is very good news for the large number of people in the UK who enjoy drinking black tea. "Moreover, drinking three to four cups of tea a day or more is likely to produce health benefit, not only in relation to diabetes, but also for heart health.” </div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-31649290883327320772009-12-16T00:25:00.000-08:002009-12-16T00:31:09.084-08:00How to stop bad sex and go for better sex<div class="summary"><br /><center><img src='http://img30.imageshack.us/img30/8498/howtostopbadsexandgofor.jpg' border='0' alt='How to stop bad sex and go for better sex'/></center><br /><br />Most of us are looking for a quick fix to our sexual dilemmas. We want a pill, a DVD, or a series of complex finger movements that will magically make us less anxious and more confident about exposing our true sexual selves.<br /><br />Of course no such magic pill exists. In the end the quality of the consensual sex we have is mostly in our own hands (literally and/or figuratively). There may not be one way to have good sex, but I do believe there are a few sure fire ways to not get what you want sexually, and to increase the chances of having bad sex. Here are my top ten ways to have bad sex.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />Compare Yourself to Others : Sexuality may be the most subjective aspect of human experience. Forget the magazine quizzes and six step sex books, there is simply no meaningful way to compare yourself to a stranger when it comes to your sexuality. Plus, everyone lies about sex anyway. Comparing yourself to others will give you nothing but grief. If you want to do something useful for your sex life, focus on yourself and anyone you're having sex with, and don't turn away.<br /><br />Ignore Your Body : The idea of a perfect body is a fiction. None of us have perfect bodies. But we're inundated with pieced together visions of beauty that we all compare ourselves to an unattainable ideal. In response many of us turn away from our bodies, pretend they, we, aren't there. But whatever your body is like, you sexuality is part of it, and you ignore your body at the expense of genuine sexual pleasure and empowerment. It's not easy, but working with the body you've got is one crucial part of improving your sex life.<br /><br />Only Listen to the Experts : If you really want to have bad sex do every thing sex experts tell you to do. It's not that people with expertise don't have something to offer (I hope), but in practice sexuality is so personal and unique that the final expert must be you and/or the people you're having sex with. Sexual growth comes from paying attention to your own experience, your own feelings, and your own body first. Once you can do that then it's worth listening to what others have to say and deciding what of their advice rings true for you.<br /><br />Stop Paying Attention : Sexuality is as much about awareness as it is about action. From birth to death, our bodies and minds never stop changing, growing, and developing. This means our sexuality never stops changing either. When you stop paying attention to your most personal sexual feelings and experiences, you shut yourself off from that change, and from aspects of your sexual self. The goal is to become less sexually ignorant as we age, not more.<br /><br />Grow Up, Get Serious : Sex is the closest thing adults have to the kind of play we engaged in when we were kids. While sex can be about all sorts of grown up things (having kids, making love, transcending duality, etc...) it can also just be a rollicking good time. If you make sex just one more thing that's serious and routine, and only done in "reasonable" ways, you lose much of the power and magic of sex in our lives.<br /><br />Believe That Ignorance Is Bliss : We all live with a certain level of sexual ignorance. This ignorance keeps us at risk of many things; risk of bad sex, risk of STDs, risk of too many regretful moments. If you want to maintain that level of risk, just keep up your level of ignorance. If you want to turn the tide then get out there and learn something about sex that's relevant to your own life from someone who is qualified to teach you.<br /><br />Confuse Sex Entertainment With Sex Education : Most of the books and magazine articles you read about sex are written by people with two qualifications; they look hip and they live in New York. Sex entertainment (movies, adult workshops, sex toy stores) can be a fun way to explore your options. But it isn't the same thing as sex education or sex therapy. If you're feeling good about your sex life but want more, sex entertainment may offer a quick boost. But if you're feeling genuinely stuck and distressed about your sexuality or your sex life, be sure to turn to a qualified sex educator, counselor, or therapist.<br /><br />Keep a Closed Mind : Making the arbitrary decision that however you're having sex right now is the only way to have sex is another guaranteed route to sexual disappointment. Regardless of political and religious beliefs, there are countless ways to express and experience your sexuality. You don't need to throw out your principles or blur your boundaries to have better sex. You just need to be creative, which is kind of the opposite of being narrow-minded.<br /><br />Act Like Sex Is Something Special : Our sexuality is linked to all aspects of our lives; our health, our families, our jobs and retirement, everything. In this way, sex isn't really anything special; it's every day and everywhere. It follows that if you want to change your sex life in a substantial way you have to change other aspects of your life as well. But when you segregate sex from the rest of your life, whether that means putting it on a pedestal or in an old shoe box, you reduce your chances of change, and cut off awareness that can help you grow sexually.<br /><br />Let Fear Be Your Guide : Sex is scary. Partly because we know so little, and partly because sex demands we give up control and expose ourselves. As a result many of us make a preemptive retreat. We don't talk about our desires, we don't tell our partners what we really want to do, or even what we fantasize about doing but would never want to do in real life. We keep ourselves hidden and collude with partners by not pushing them too much. Oftentimes fear is a reasonable response. But if you're in a safe relationship where there is trust, the more you let fear be your guide, the less you'll get out of the sexual relationship.</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-27574466355939443542009-12-15T03:00:00.000-08:002009-12-15T03:04:46.794-08:00Drunk men force wives into sex<div class="summary"><br />Drunk men who force their wives or girlfriends to have sex should be prosecuted for rape, the head of a Government inquiry into sex crime said yesterday.<br /><br />Drinking by the man should be considered an 'aggravating factor' when any woman makes a complaint of rape, said Baroness Stern.<br /><br />She added: 'Being drunk is voluntary and people who become drunk are responsible for their actions.<br /><img style="width: 486px; height: 425px;" src="http://img35.imageshack.us/img35/4271/article1235743002b5de60.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"> <span style="font-weight: bold;">Baroness Stern has warned that alcohol cannot be used as an excuse for rape (picture posed by models)</span><br /></div><br />It is not the alcohol that commits the rape. It is not an excuse. It used to be regarded as such, but it is not.'<br /><br />Her call for police, prosecutors and the courts to consider how much alcohol a man has consumed raised the prospect of a 'sex breathalyser' that would help decide when sex has become a crime.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />A similar idea has already been put forward by ministers, who said it should be a crime for a man to have sex with a woman who was very drunk. Judges quashed the plan.<br /><br />But Lady Stern also told the London Evening Standard a drunken woman was not 'fair game' for men.<br /><br />The former prison reform campaigner is running an inquiry for Women and Equality Minister Harriet Harman into the way rape complaints are handled by police, the Crown Prosecution Service and other public authorities.<br /><br />Ministers are concerned at the low conviction rate for rapes. They hope to encourage more women to make complaints and 'fairly' increase convictions.<br /><br />Alcohol is thought to be involved in two out of three alleged rapes. Most also involve a man and a woman who know each other rather than an attack by a stranger.<br /><br />In 2003 Ministers changed the definition of rape so a man had to show he had reasonable grounds to believe he had been given consent.<br /><br />They argued that a woman who was very drunk was not capable of giving consent.<br /><br />But a series of cases showed that juries were reluctant to convict a man on the word of an alleged victim who was drunk and Appeal Court judges ruled that even a drunken woman could still consent to sex.<br /><br />Lady Stern's suggestion echoes comments by Victims' Champion Sara Payne earlier this month.<br /><br />Mrs Payne said some people felt women were too often warned about the risk of rape if they drink too much.<br /><br />In a report for the Home Office she said: 'The advertising we have had puts all the onus on the victim - it's "don't go out and get drunk, you might get raped". The onus needs to be on the man.'<br /><br />But criminologist David Green, of the Civitas think-tank, warned that the law should not treat men and women differently.<br /><br />'If a man is responsible for his conduct when drunk, so is a woman,' Dr Green said.<br /><br />'The law must be applied equally. It is a choice to get drunk, but it follows that the consequence of that choice applies to both sides.'</div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-71517220450175415352009-12-11T08:15:00.000-08:002009-12-11T08:20:18.178-08:00How to time sex to get pregnant<div class="summary"><center><br /><img src='http://img686.imageshack.us/img686/508/howtotimesextogetpregna.jpg' border='0' alt='How to time sex to get pregnant'/></center><br /><br />The ovulation period roughly lasts for 24-48 hours during a cycle. Sperms, on the other hand, live for around 3 to 5 days, and sometimes even longer. Therefore, there is only a very short time each month when you are most likely to conceive.<br /><br />It may take up to a year to get pregnant, especially if your periods are infrequent or irregular, so there is no need to worry if you are not pregnant after a couple of months. You can use this time to enjoy yourself without using contraception.<br /></div> <div class="restofpost"><br /><br />When does ovulation take place during a cycle<br /><br />A woman’s menstruation cycle is generally 28 days long, but could last anywhere between 25 to 35 days (or even longer). The cycle begins from the first day of menstruation and ends on the first day of the next menstruation. Roughly 14 days before the beginning of the next period, the woman’s body releases an egg. This egg generally lasts for 24-48 hours, known as the ovulating phase. If the egg is not fertilized (combined with a sperm) during this period, it is discarded by the body during menstruation. For a woman with a 28-day menstruation cycle, the ovulation period is approximately the 14th day of the cycle. For a woman with a 32-day cycle, ovulation will take place on the 18th day of the cycle.<br /><br />Which are the most fertile days for a woman to conceive, and which are the safe days<br /><br />The most fertile period of a woman with a regular 28 day cycle is between day 10 (rarely 9) and day 18. The human ovum is susceptible to fertilization for 24 hours after ovulation. The sperm ejaculated into the vagina can live upto 5 days but can fertilize an ovum only for about 3 days. In a 28-day cycle the unsafe period is from day 7 to 21.the chance of conception is minimum (10/100 women a year) when coitus is avoided during these days. The first day of menses can be marked on a calendar for 6 months. Then by subtracting 18 days from the shortest cycle & 11 days from the longest cycle we get the first and last day of the fertile period, thus coitus should be avoided during this period to avoid conception.<br /><br />Does ovulation take place every menstrual cycle?<br /><br />No, ovulation does not necessarily take place in every menstrual cycle. Even if your periods are regular, it is possible that you will not ovulate in a particular month. Painful periods generally imply that you had ovulated during that cycle. However, ovulation could take place even if the periods are not painful. How often should a couple engage in intercourse in order to conceive Too much sex or too little sex can cause problems in getting pregnant. In general, it is best to refrain from intercourse a few days before the ovulation period, so that the sperm count is high. Some doctors recommend that you have sex every alternate day during the fertile phase. Having sex everyday may reduce the sperm count.</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-56120673205081285162009-12-10T01:22:00.000-08:002009-12-10T01:25:34.984-08:00Casual sex aren't emotionally damaging<div class="summary"><img style="width: 495px; height: 381px;" src="http://img32.imageshack.us/img32/7607/algcoupleflirting691451.jpg" alt="Casual sex" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">Casual sex, hookups aren't emotionally damaging, study finds<br /></div><br />A surprising new study reveals that casual sex may not cause emotional or psychological damage.<br /><br />Despite the pervasive belief that hooking up casually is detrimental to the well-being of young adults, researchers found that not to be the case in a recent study, reports the Minneapolis Star Tribune.<br /><br />The study asked 1,311 Minnesota-based young adults, between the ages of 18 and 24, about their most recent sexual experiences, their self-esteem and their general well-being after the experience.<br /></div><div class="restofpost"><br />Only one-fifth of the subjects said their most recent experience was casual. And overall, their emotional status wasn’t any different from those who said their last sexual experience was with a committed partner.<br /><br />“We were so surprised,” said Marla Eisenberg, who is an assistant professor at the university School of Public Health.<br /><br />“The conventional wisdom is that casual sex, 'friends with benefits,' and hooking up is hurtful. That's what we've been teaching kids for decades,” she said, adding that abstinence-only sex education programs in particular enforce this notion.<br /><br />However, researchers said that this doesn’t mean casual sex is for everyone - and Eisenberg is quick to warn of the physical consequences of casual sex. Rates of sexually transmitted diseases continue to increase and teen pregnancy rates in Minnesota in particular are also on the rise, according to the Star Tribune.<br /></div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-84050180607517254782009-12-07T23:17:00.000-08:002009-12-07T23:28:19.645-08:00Women trying to get pregnant could be as likely to conceive by giving up alcohol and caffeine than by going to a fertility clinic<div class="summary"><center><img src='http://img707.imageshack.us/img707/5522/womentryingtogetpregnan.jpg' border='0' alt='Women trying to get pregnant could be as likely to conceive by giving up alcohol and caffeine than by going to a fertility clinic'/></center>Women wanting to become pregnant are as likely to succeed by giving up alcohol and caffeine than by attending a fertility clinic, a nutrition specialist claims.<br /><br />Dr Emma Derbyshire said that 32 per cent of those having trouble conceiving became pregnant by giving up stimulants compared to 33 per cent after IVF treatment.<br /><br />And she revealed that quitting smoking is as important as a healthy diet in improving a woman's fertility. Previous studies have shown that smoking can delay a woman's chances of getting pregnant by two months.<br /><br />Dr Derbyshire, of Manchester Metropolitan University, said couples should tackle their unhealthy lifestyles first before choosing expensive fertility treatment.<br /><br />'Women wanting to get pregnant stand nearly the same chance of conceiving if they cut out alcohol and caffeine as if they attend an IVF clinic for fertility treatment,' she said.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />Dr Derbyshire said the odds of conceiving fall from 60 per cent in women who have one to five alcoholic drinks a week to 30 per cent for those consuming more than ten.<br /><br />And she warned caffeine may also reduce a woman's chances of becoming pregnant, saying no more than 300mg - or three cups of coffee or tea - should be consumed in a day.<br /><br />Research on miscarriage suggests caffeine might harm the unborn baby because it is easily passed from mother to foetus, who cannot readily metabolise it.<br /><br />˜ The postcode lottery for fertility treatment on the Health Service is getting worse, a report by Tory MP Grant Shapps warns.<br /><br />It found eight out of ten primary care trusts are failing to give childless couples the recommended quota of three IVF cycles.<br /><br />And it said two trusts have refused to provide any IVF treatment in the past two years.</div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-49152900996167370702009-11-24T06:46:00.000-08:002009-11-24T06:48:59.214-08:00Women drinkers have better sex lives<div class="summary">Women who drink red wine enjoy better sex lives, a study from the University of Florence in Italy has suggested.<br /><img style="width: 468px; height: 293px;" src="http://img42.imageshack.us/img42/130/wine1458096c3979958.jpg" alt="Women" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">Women who drink red wine enjoy better sex lives, an Italian university study has suggested<br /></div><br />A study among Tuscan women discovered that one or two glasses a day could lead to a more fulfilling life in the bedroom.<br /><br />Experts from the university questioned 800 women between 18 and 50 Santa Maria Annunziata Hospital about their sexual satisfaction.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost">Using the Female Sexual Function Index - which is used by doctors to assess women and sexual health - it emerged that drinkers scored higher than teetotallers.<br /><br />The score is determined using factors including sexual arousal, orgasm, satisfaction and pain and ranges between two and 36, with higher scores meaning better sexual health.<br /><br />Overall, women who drank two glasses a day scored an average of 27.3 points, compared to 25.9 for those who drank one glass and 24.4 for the non-drinkers.<br /><br />The study's lead author, Dr Nicola Mondaini said: "Historically, the aspects of wine and sexuality have been well known since the time of Ancient Greece.<br /><br />"But the field of female sexual dysfunction is still highly unexplored."<br /><br />The study also found that older women enjoy a more fruitful sex life.</div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-84463171851008178342009-11-17T06:53:00.000-08:002009-11-17T06:57:56.483-08:00Female Viagra boosts women's libido<div class="summary"><img style="width: 453px; height: 253px;" src="http://img198.imageshack.us/img198/2410/a3e3fe65f780404b8c0fada.jpg" alt="Female Viagra" border="0" /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">The drug, flibanserin, did little to improve patients' mood, but did do wonders however for women's flagging sex drive, researchers found.<br /></div><br />Results from a series of clinical trials showed "significant improvements" in a number of measures of libido among women who had lost interest in sex. Researchers have hailed it as a potential "Viagra for women".<br /><br />The drug mimics serotonin and a certain forms of dopamine which are substances produced naturally in the body connected with mood, reward, and learning.<br /><br />Women taking 100 milligrams of flibanserin once a day reported greater numbers of "satisfactory sexual encounters", higher levels of sexual desire, and reduced stress associated with sexual problems.<br /></div><div class="restofpost"><br />Professor John Thorp, from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, US, who led the research, said: "Flibanserin was a poor antidepressant.<br /><br />"However, astute observers noted that it increased libido in laboratory animals and human subjects. So, we conducted multiple clinical trials and the women in our studies who took it for hypoactive sexual desire disorder reported significant improvements in sexual desire and satisfactory sexual experiences.<br /><br />"It's essentially a Viagra-like drug for women in that diminished desire or libido is the most common feminine sexual problem, like erectile dysfunction is in men."<br /><br />Viagra, which helps men overcome impotency, also began life with another purpose in mind. It was originally designed to treat angina, the chest pain associated with heart disease.<br /><br />Scientists discovered that Viagra had the welcome side effect of helping the penis to fill with blood, thereby producing an erection.<br /><br />Pooled results from three of four trials testing flibanserin's ability to boost women's sex drives were presented at the Congress of the European Society for Sexual Medicine in Lyon, France.<br /><br />A total of 1,946 pre-menopausal women aged 18 and older were treated either with flibanserin or an inactive "dummy" placebo drug for 24 weeks.<br /><br />Prof Thorp said the treatment could provide a new alternative for women without having to resort to hormones which can have side effects.</div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-27797151678282545682009-11-17T05:44:00.000-08:002009-11-17T05:52:13.043-08:00Plastic Surgery For Man Boobs<div class="summary"><br /><img src='http://img34.imageshack.us/img34/868/plasticsurgeryformanboo.jpg' border='0' alt='Plastic Surgery For Man Boobs'/><br /><br />Medical experts claim that somewhere between forty and fifty percent of men have had man boobs or gynecomastia at some point in their life journey. The condition is mainly caused by men having too much estrogen in their body leading to a hormonal imbalance. However it can easily be caused by obesity. In this day and age, it is very easy to get carried away with what we eat.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />One way to get rid of man boobs is to have a plastic surgical procedure. The procedure is called gynecomastia surgery and involves the removal of the enlarged breasts using two methods: liposuction and excision. Liposuction involves the insertion of a tube into the chest area and the fat is sucked out using a suction force. Once the fat is gone, the surgeon will perform excision which involves the cutting away of breast tissue. This may involve removing the nipples and repositioning them for a more natural chest contour.<br /><br />Before selecting a surgeon, be sure to do some research online and look for surgeons without any negative history. Also look for before and after photos of former patients. Surgery will end up costing you anywhere between five and ten thousand dollars which will include the surgery fee, the medical facility fee and the anesthesia fee. Almost one hundred percent of the surgeries are done with general anesthesia which means that you will go to sleep, and when you wake up, the surgery will be over. To aid the healing process, you will need to wear a compression vest for a couple of weeks.<br /></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-4036184871438650952009-11-14T05:08:00.000-08:002009-11-14T05:19:38.873-08:00Amazing Sexy Kissing Tips<div class="summary"><br /><center><a href='http://img692.imageshack.us/i/sexykissing.jpg/'><img src='http://img692.imageshack.us/img692/9937/sexykissing.jpg' border='0' alt='Amazing Sexy Kissing Tips'/></a><br/></center><br />If she is laying down draw one of her arms above her head and lightly hold her hand. Commence by kissing the soft area on the inside of her upper arm - from her elbow down to her chest. For variation, trail the tip of your tongue in a zigzag down this area. This absolutely drives my wife crazy! (submitted by Troy)<br /><br />Kiss her gently near the clavicle (colar bone), then run your tongue in a zig zag up to her ear very slowly. Give her earlobe a little nibble. It’s all in the neck guys… (submitted by Dave) <br /></div><div class="restofpost"><br />When you’re sitting close to your love, start out by softly stroking their face, slowly move your hand to their mouth then very lightly brush the lower lip with one of your fingers. If they seem to love this, then place the tip of that finger in their mouth. My boyfriend loves this, and sometimes he’ll start sucking my finger a bit. This leads to a great french kiss! (submitted by KC)<br /><br />Gently kiss your partner on the neck, cheek, jaw, and slowly move closer to his/her lips. When you reach their lips, they will be all the more excited to kiss you! My boyfriend sometimes does this and it drives me crazy! (submitted by Christi)<br /><br />Start by pouring a glass of wine. Take a few sips to get the taste in your mouth. When you lead him to bed, bring the wine with you. While kissing him, dip your finger in the wine. Trace his lips and mouth with your wine-soaked finger and lick the wine off slowly and gently. Take your time. Kissing can be very erotic. (submitted by Heather)<br /><br />I play a kissing game with my wife. The object of the game is to make your partner try to kiss you. This could be done by lightly kissing her neck, breathing into her ear, kissing her cheeks, and lightly kissing her lips. Whoever lasts the longest wins! (submitted by Guntes)<br /><br />Sensually whisper something a litte bit naughty in their ear such as “I want you…” or make up your own. Let them feel your breath next to their ear, then kiss it and gently nibble it. Move down towards their neck and back up to their lips. This drives my husband crazy! (submitted by Gloria)<br /><br />When kissing…try to catch his/her upper lip between your lips as you’re closing your mouth, and suck lightly before letting go. (submitted by Ryan)<br /><br />When kissing really passionately, stroke the nape of his neck with your fingers. (submitted by Beth)<br /><br />Think of why you like certain body parts of your love, or why you love to kiss those body parts. For each area, give them a quick kiss there, then whisper why you love that part. Move up and down their body sprinkling them with kisses and sweet words. (submitted by Nora) <br /></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-68734332241338044752009-11-12T21:54:00.000-08:002009-11-12T21:59:04.815-08:00Chinese university sets up patrols to stop students kissing<div class="summary"><br /><img style="width: 497px; height: 378px;" src="http://img687.imageshack.us/img687/6307/chinakissingpatrol16335.jpg" alt="Couple kissing" border="0" /><br /><br /><div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;">Chinese university sets up patrols to stop students kissing<br /></div><br />The patrols at Nanjing Forestry University watch out for couples who are hugging, kissing or sitting too close to each other.<br /><br />The university says the patrols will "clean up the atmosphere" on campus.<br /><br />Teachers supervise the patrols, which are staffed by fellow student volunteers working two-hour shifts.<br /><br />On the college's internet bulletin boards one woman describes how she and her boyfriend were sitting together when a patrol spotted them. The patrol member got behind them and kept coughing until they moved apart.<br /></div><div class="restofpost"><br />Others complain that the university authorities should spend their time managing the institution, not regulating young lovers, and speak of their shame at the publicity the crackdown has generated.<br /><br />In one of the complaints, student Gui Ya, says: "The news is spreading over the internet. It's like being naked and shown to the public."<br /><br />And a colleague with the user name Raymondxiao moans: "The action is a shame. The university is not going to be a real university."<br /><br />Another bulletin board complaint from Yi Fu Jia Da Po Tou says: "There are no human rights on this issue."<br /><br />Volunteers who turn a blind eye to an infraction are said to face penalties themselves, although calls to the university to confirm this went unanswered.<br /><br /><img style="width: 495px; height: 370px;" src="http://img687.imageshack.us/img687/6228/chinakissingpatrol21636.jpg" alt="Couple kissing" border="0" /><br /></div>salmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16401524018566702310noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-20737841546765889922009-11-10T19:13:00.000-08:002009-11-10T19:18:39.606-08:00Need Better Sperm than Ejaculate Daily<div class="summary"><br /><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjVJD1yMWyg17tAzMiE6wbTcLWITWicSEcYRAUd4uvHCU_RgbxmI72M7ZWQQMKpAX571S8TW87v1dgwbaikfMrOZUnVqoB1Y7dHedjkdjGvq6JXhb0eaGBBlFD1k5Eae6fO2O7Q/s400/Need+Better+Sperm+than+Ejaculate+Daily.jpg" border="0" alt="Need Better Sperm than Ejaculate Daily"id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5402679853023861154" /><br />Sex works on the principle of positive feed back: more sex just improves our 'performance'. A team from Sydney University says that men with damaged sperm should have sex daily to increase the chances of getting their partner pregnant. In many cases, couples with fertility issues abstain from sex for several days to boost sperm numbers before trying to conceive.<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />But the new research claims that this could mean<br />lower-quality sperm. The Australian team investigated 42 men whose sperm had been discovered to have an abnormal shape after microscopical investigations. The subjects were required to ejaculate each day for seven days, and these sperms were compared with those collected from them after three days of abstinence.<br /><br />Except for five cases, all the subjects presented less sperm damage in their samples coming after daily ejaculation, compared to the post-abstention samples. Dr Allan Pacey, the secretary of the British Fertility Society, agrees that daily sex could improve sperm quality in men with sperm issues.<br /><br />"While not having sex allowed the numbers of sperm to build up, there was a "trade-off" between quality and quantity. This research shows that when you put people on a daily ejaculation regime, it reduces the figure for DNA damage. If you can go from 30% to 20% that is quite a big shift and that should have some implications for fertility. There are men out there who think, or whose partners think, that limiting ejaculation will make them more fertile.", said Pacey.<br /><br />"I remember one couple in which the woman would only let the man ejaculate when she was in her fertile period, so the poor chap was going without for almost a month at a time. If a couple was initially trying to get pregnant, an interval of two to three days was probably advisable - whereas a man with high DNA damage and a "decent" sperm count should try more often.", he added.<br /></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38427227.post-33045801991972805852009-11-09T02:41:00.000-08:002009-11-09T02:41:00.631-08:00Girl is allergic to husband's sperm on their wedding night<div class="summary"><br /><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 250px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgU_PGBNX3NgF3TUIv6tu0WVq8oNx2KT44f7ecl-OEbBd9mIQYBJ33huz-5wVj5mfL8aD3u19lBJ-NrY85wAtxfF5vqpGfpos4_vZssuGUsxUr0cmBsgsO2GLXRDP_wOZOYa3kt/s400/Girl+is+allergic+to+husband%27s+sperm+on+their+wedding+night.jpg" border="0" alt="Girl is allergic to husband's sperm on their wedding night "id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5401681818713938642" /><br />A newlywed couple fear they will be unable to have a baby after they discovered the wife was allergic to her husband's semen. Julie Boyde, 26, discovered the problem when she and husband Mike, 27, had unprotected sexual intercourse for the first time on their wedding night.<br /><br />The couple had been dating for two years when they got married, but had always used protection. As soon as they had unprotected intercourse for the first time she knew something was wrong. "Before we were always very careful and, you know, used protection, and that time we didn't," Mrs Boyde said. "So, we figured we were married now, so if we got pregnant, we got pregnant."<br /></div><br /><div class="restofpost"><br />Mrs Boyde, from Ambridge, Pennsylvania, added: "The pain that I was feeling was inside, kind of like, somebody was sticking needles up inside of me and like a burning, like really painful burning."<br /><br />Doctors were unable to explain why she experienced pain after intercourse, until a friend of hers suggested she might be allergic to her husband's semen. She was eventually diagnoses with Seminal Plasma Hypersensitivity, which can cause itching and burning.<br /><br />Dr Andrew Goldstein, from the University of Cincinnati Medical Center said: "The body recognizes semen as a foreign protein just as it would recognize a peanut allergen or pollen." "So you have swelling, you have itching, you have inflammation of the nerve endings."<br /><br />His colleague Jonathan Bernstein developed a desensitization treatment similar to receiving an allergy shot. After determining the proteins in Mr Boyde's semen that triggered his wife's reaction, he created a serum to counteract the problem. Although the treatment works for some couples, it did not for the Boydes. They have now started adoption proceedings.<br /></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1